Tuesday, May 12, 2015

Bridge Building to Friendships


Building a bridge to nowhere will get you there! Many relationships have been saved because of a GPS.Things can get tense when one is driving and another is navigating. Because we now have a tool (GPS) we can more easily get to our destination, unless of course the GPS says, "You have arrived," and instead of pulling into a restaurant you are facing a cornfield! In order to build friendships we need tools and a plan. That makes it sound like being intentional? You may ask, "Does this mean I need to work at my friendships or other relationships?" To answer that question mildly, "Yep." It also means if you want to increase your base of friendships, you need intentionality. One needs to plan to build bridges to others. I know networking seems more difficult for those who see themselves as quiet or introverted. It does take getting out of our comfort zone, but having goals and a plan can make it easier. Do you want to have more friendships and associates? Then consider these points: Count the number of friends you do have. You may not realize it but you may actually have more friends than you imagine. Since they know you, ask them what they could recommend to help you network. Where are you connected? Where do you need to connect? Here are some ideas: Check out civic organizations like the Optimist Club, Rotary, Kiwanis, etc. They have great social times as well as provide services to the community. Join a book club. Find like-minded readers who have a passion to read and share. Join a hobby club. Besides reading, there are endless hobby groups that network and socialize. Attend a place of worship. This is a great opportunity to feel supported and to be of assistance to others along the journey. Volunteer. There are millions of ways to volunteer in a community like hospitals, libraries, schools, parks, boards or commissions, etc. Take a class at a local community college. They have reasonable prices with a wide variety to choose from. I once took a water coloring class from a community college. It's a great way to network. Anything else you can add to the list? For further ideas do web searching. A word of caution: go slow on your involvement and networking. It takes time and energy so you'll want to pace yourself. Before you know it, you will have a network of friends and associates and will probably ask yourself, "Why did I wait so long?" I am a relationship coach and educator who is passionate about helping others build healthy relationships. Learn more on my blog and website: http://relationshipsrock.org/ and http://foundations4yourlife.com/. Be sure to download my free eBook!

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