The following describes a picture of Christian womanhood for there is no way anybody could do all of things mentioned in the following verses. Most of all it is a guide, because some of the things you will be good at and some you won't. For example you may not have any interest in planting a vineyard or buying property but you may be a wonderful mother and have a special gift in this area. The main idea is to focus on what you are good at, and then be the best you can be in your area of strength in order to honor God's glory.
Proverbs 31:10-17 NIV (10) A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. (11) Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. (12) She brings him good, not harm all the days of her life. (13) She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. (14) She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. (15) She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family portions for her servant girls. (16) She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. (17) She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. (18) She sees that her trading is profitable and her lamp does not go out at night. (19)In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. (20) She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. (21) When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. (22) She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. (23) Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
The Willingness to be Submissive
There is such misunderstanding around the "S" word that many are afraid to even bring up this valuable teaching. But when we look at the book of Ephesians and Paul says "Wives submit to your husbands" he is talking about a Christian husband.
Ephesians 5:22-26 (NIV) (22) Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. (23) For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. (24) Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. (25) Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her (26) to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word.
According to God's word a Christian husband is the spiritual leader of the family. If the husband is doing all he can to be like Christ and loving his wife like Christ loved the church, then the "S" word is no big deal. Actually Paul devotes twice as many words in Ephesians to husbands loving their wives then he does to wives submitting to their husbands.
How should a husband love his wife?
1. He should be willing to sacrifice everything for her
2. He should make her well being his primary focus
3. He should love her just as he loves his own body
No woman should fear submitting to a husband that treats her in this way.
Recommended Daily Devotion
Try praying this prayer every morning and see what miracles God has in store for you
Dear Heavenly Father,
I humbly come before you and ask for your guidance today. I ask that through the holy-spirit you would show me how to become a better Christian wife. Help to understand what it means to be submissive in a Christian marriage according to your word. Show me father my strengths as Christian woman and how I can use those strengths to your glory.
Father I also pray for my husband today and ask that you would help us and our marriage grow stronger by your word. Help us to communicate effectively and grant us the ability to listen to each other with an open heart and mind.
In the name of Jesus I pray.